by Leslie Sann
“As you are the only person you can count on spending your life with — you may as well choose to be your best friend.”
~ Leslie Sann
I was on the phone with a client who is really really struggling. Sometimes when you work with me I can get silly crazy fun. While she was sharing with me where the hurt was I thought of a song which seemed appropriate to the moment. I taught her the words and we sang it together.
Nobody likes me
Everybody hates me
Think I’ll eat some worms
Big fat gushy ones
Little tiny mushy ones
Think I’ll eat some worms
I’ll bite their heads off
Suck their guts out
Throw their skins away
When people ask me
Why I do it
I begin to say …
[Repeat over and over and over again, faster and faster
until you can’t help exploding with laughter!]
It’s a silly song I learned at camp. I used to love singing it in the backseat in order to drive my mother crazy. It just showed up out of the blue to share with this client. She was so lovely and learned the words and we sang it together. And we laughed.
My client had been suffering because she was thinking about what other people were thinking about her and she was afraid they were thinking they don’t like her. The song was a fun way to show what we (all) do when we’re stuck in a pattern of hurting ourselves because of what we think other people think about us and worry about the other people’s thoughts.
That is A LOT of thinking about thinking!
Thoughts are just brain energy moving. Just like clouds, they come and go. Why then do we spend time thinking about something that is going to disappear in any moment?
Yet we do that.
Because it’s really silly to hurt ourselves because other people may or may not like us. That’s not liking ourselves or loving ourselves or honoring ourselves. People do what they do. People think what they think. People feel what they feel. None of that is our business. Our business is to be kind and loving and supportive of ourselves. Because if you aren’t going to be kind to you … well … what’s that about?
Kindness and care for you is what you can do to make your life better. Because you’re the only person you can count on spending the rest of your life with. In that case, I suggest you choose to be kind loving and supportive of YOU.
If you’re not quite sure how to do that, then one of the kindest things you can ever do in life is ask for help when you’re stuck. Sometimes we just need a hand to pull us out of the darkness that we created out of ignorance.
Ignorance is not stupidity, it is just not knowing any better.
So how about singing the song:
I like me
I love me
Think I’ll go have fun.
Big fat happy times
Little tiny smiley times
Think I’ll go have fun!
If you want to learn the tune, reach out and we’ll set up a time to sing silly together.