Living Surrender

By Leslie Sann

 Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life – and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.

~ Eckhart Tolle

I live near the Kane County flea market, which is noted to be one of the best in the country. I was at the market with a friend, enjoying walking the many aisles, looking at all the fun things we do not need, and curious to see what might make its way home with us.

We came across an unusual lampshade without a price tag that would look good in my den. The vendor told me his wife had just sold the lamp, and the woman who purchased it didn’t want the shade. I tossed out a number I’d be willing to pay. (I love to haggle.) Inside of me, he was free to say yes or no. He responded that he’d have to check with his wife, and she had stepped away from their booth. I thanked him, and my friend and I walked away.

As we were walking, I told my friend the further we walked, the less I wanted it. She agreed; attachment fades with distance. A few breaths later, I forgot about the shade and was happily engaged with something else.

I felt a tap on my shoulder.

It was the vendor with the shade now mine, for he had agreed to my ridiculously low price.

I made the transaction. I noticed my heart was smiling. I was having an aha moment. It is about living surrender. I realize living surrender is participating fully in my life without attachment to the outcome. My opportunity is to show up, offer what I have and see what comes back to me. Participate to participate without expectations, the joy sourced from showing up completely to the moment.

Too often, we show up to please, be liked, get something from out there, and manipulate or control the outcomes. Life isn’t joyful when we live in this place. What if we just showed up to show up — to give who we are into the moment — to serve with our giving and let life respond how it does? What if we welcomed whatever came to us from our participation with wonder, delight and gratitude? Oh, joy! Imagine that … a Y E S, thank you to life.

The lampshade, which looks terrific on the lamp I bought it for, is now a reminder that letting go with generous openness is a gift I give to myself.

Blessings and Joy,